Three months ago I wrote about why I love my girlfriend. I was thinking about it and I realized that she was the first woman to whom I ever said the words, “I am always going to put you first in my life.” I’ve thought the words before with other women but I never said them out loud. Words are important and by saying them out loud, they become real and a part of our life.
This past weekend she and I and her son went to San Diego. We had a blast exploring the city, geo-caching and just having fun. Sunday night we went to an immersive experience where we were supposed to find clues to escape from a zombie infected laboratory. It was a blast. Before going we went to CVS to buy a pair of reading glasses (If I had to read clues without the readers, we’d be eaten by a zombie). We found a pair and they were $35! Laura saw the 2.00 magnification and thought that was the price and we started to laugh. I cried out, “There needs to be an investigation. You can buy six pairs at Costco for $15!” She said, “Call 90 Minutes!” I asked her if she meant 60 minutes and we looked at each other and stated laughing. I’m walking through the store crying out that there needs to be an investigation for price gouging and that we need to call 90 minutes. We couldn’t stop laughing.
This is why I love her.
We spend our entire lives as human beings seeking a true connection with another person. For every perceived success there are myriad failures. How do we know when we have found real love? Have we not said the word to others and meant it only to see the relationship end? I’d like to think that I am always willing to be teachable and to stay in the moment. I’ve actually become quite good at it. I don’t worry about the future and I don’t spend any time rehashing past mistakes. This past year has put me in the best place of my life. Here, in the present, with the ability to offer myself fully to another person. This brings me to my girlfriend. She makes me laugh. I make her laugh. I am fully engaged in being with her. I told her that I would always put her first and I find that it is quite easy to do. She has slowly let down her walls and we are becoming closer every day and I could not be happier. We are happy. We are very touchy and it feels good.
An area where couples sometimes have difficulties is in needing another person to validate what we like. My girlfriend is adventurous and that is something that I want in my life. I’m very solid and dependable and that is something she wants in her life. We mesh. Well, my girlfriend and I have divergent tastes in music. She makes me laugh because she’ll say things like, “I don’t like music with horns” or “That sounds old, I don’t like it.” When I point out that it really isn’t that old, she’ll say that it was before she was aware of it, so it’s old. It makes me laugh. Not in a mocking way but because it is funny and it makes me happy that she can say these things to me. She once told me, “Bananas make me mad” and I still crack up when I think about it. She’s being herself.
Last night this commercial came on and I told her that I loved the song:
She tells me that she doesn’t like what she calls the Oogy Boogy song (It’s Oogum Boogum by Brenton Wood). I downloaded the song so she could hear the entire song. No change. I’m grooving to it, moving like an old white guy. Anything? Nope, she doesn’t like it. I love it. She doesn’t. I don’t care.
Later, she hears a song and says, “You probably like this song.” I turned to her and said, “If it’s a song you don’t like, it’s probably one that I do.” We looked at each other and burst out laughing. This is why I love her.
All I can say is that I know how it feels when a personal dog dies and that it never gets easier, the older I get. However let it be a comfort to you that the pain will turn into great memories of lessons given to you by your dog; lessons about love, loyalty, happiness, forgiveness, courage, humbleness and zest for life and most importantly about yourself. I believe that dogs are God’s gift which he gave us so that we have a chance to learn from them these lessons. They are also here to give us comfort and encouragement when we are down. Thus our dogs are not just our guardians, but most importantly they are our teachers. And when their dog’s job is done, then they have to go to doggie heaven back to God. The pain we feel when the dog goes young or old is so great, I know. However it is only a bargain tuition which we pay for these great lessons, protection and happiness the dog so generously and selflessly gave us.
Cherish these lessons and remember that the dog is not buried in the woods under a tree or in the desert or in the urn, but please know that your dog is buried in your heart where he will live in your memories as long as you do. Any time you want your dog, he will jump smiling from the tall grass and remind you of the happy times which you have had together and will have forever. Be grateful for it. – Hans Blabla
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They are basically talking about the reclassification of hydrocodone-containing painkillers as “Schedule II” medications from their current classification as “Schedule III” drugs.
The Food and Drug Administration on Thursday recommended tighter controls on how doctors prescribe the most commonly used narcotic painkillers.
The move, which represents a major policy shift, follows a decade-long debate over whether the widely abused drugs, which contain the narcotic hydrocodone, should be controlled as tightly as more powerful painkillers such as OxyContin.
Read the NY Times article here.
An interesting article about the decline in patients seeking psychotherapy.
Psychotherapy’s Image Problem